The Love Energy
|The Love Energy|
|INTRODUCTION TO LOVE ENERGY|
|DEFINITION OF LOVE ENERGY|
|THE LIFE FORCE|
|THE BEGINNING OF THE END|
|HOW TO INCREASE LOVE ENERGY|
|GIVING AND RECEIVING|
|THE FLOW OF LOVE ENERGY|
LOVE ENERGY: THE LIFE FORCE: THE FOUNTAIN OF YOUTH
Lecture Notes, May 2000
Clancy D. McKenzie, M.D
© American Mental Health Association, May 2000
Proper nutrition, exercise and relaxation are recognized as vital ingredients for a long and healthy life. But there is a fourth ingredient that largely has been overlooked. This fourth factor is love, which can add as much to one's energy level and to one's longevity as any of the other factors. In fact, biblical accounts indicate that love energy potentially can add hundreds of years to one's life - yet this comparatively important factor has not been studied scientifically to the same extent as the other three factors.
Even though most of us do not see this love energy readily, this does not mean it does not exist or does not have great impact. Take for example a person who eats nothing but junk food, smokes, doesn't exercise, drinks beer and sports a pot-belly. Let him fall in love, and suddenly he has as much energy as a person who lives on energy food and exercises daily. Suddenly he can work day and night. What is the mechanism for this enormous flow of energy and where does it come from? How can we harness it and use it at will? These questions are especially important in the health fields, because this energy might also be the healing energy, or the life force itself.
To begin to understand love energy, let me first give a definition that will make more sense as time goes on. I define love as an attention or energy directed outward, and the byproduct of which is happiness. The opposite is need or desire, which is the same attention or energy directed back to the self, and the byproduct of which is unhappiness. Reverse the direction of flow of attention or energy and you get the opposite feeling. Fall in love and you are in a state of bliss - but as soon as you want the other person to love you, you are miserable.
Fall in love and you have so much energy you can work day and night, but as soon as you reverse the direction of flow and focus attention on the self "Oh woe is me, aches and pains, etc." you have so little energy you can hardly move.
Subliminally we do see evidence of this love energy, but we have not really analyzed it in modern times. We see this energy, for example, when a person falls in love, because we say "he's beaming, glowing, radiant, vibrant, turned on." Thus we see, at some level, the aura - which brightens in intensity proportionate to the increase in flow of love energy. Holy people, or saintly individuals, are those who become extremely loving, and they are depicted as having bright auras or halos, or as being surrounded by light. This "aura" that we see might have another name: In a dream state I heard the words: "The aura is the edge of the soul." Interesting. I wasn't thinking about this or looking for it. It was as though someone was passing by and just wanted to tell me that. So was this a part of my own mind? Or was it some kind of a visitor?
This love energy is the life force itself, or the healing energy. Need or desire, which is the exact opposite, roughly can be equated with what is sometimes called "sin," and we have read "the wages of sin are death." Or, "Touch the forbidden fruit and you shall surely die." This is energy flowing in a direction opposite to the direction of flow of the life force, and opposite direction of the flow of love energy. There are scores of biblical accounts of holy people who lived for hundreds of years. These are also people who were known to be very loving and who are depicted as having very bright auras.
In another dream-state I saw the fountain of youth. I wasn't looking for it; it was simply there, revealed to me and for what reason I do not know. It is not in some distant corner of the earth: It is within every person. It is a beautiful fountain of love energy in each person, waiting to spring fourth. What I saw was a beautiful outpouring of love energy, radiating outward about arm's length. I instantly knew it was the fountain of youth - and along with the vision was the clear awareness that as soon as the person wants to live forever, he/she shuts off the flow. (One can forever want to help people, but to want to live forever is the wrong direction of flow of this attention or energy.)
This just might be what is described as the energy of the soul. You might have heard about yogis advising to draw energy from the soul, and we have heard the words "soul power." How is this energy used? How do we draw from this enormous, boundless, unlimited source of energy and let it flow through us? One way is to do the task for someone else. This gives much more energy. Examples: a person who dedicates winning a race for a child who is dying of leukemia -- versus running the race for the self. One's chances of winning are enhanced if one dedicates the race to someone else. Another example of this was in the Tyson versus Holyfield fights. Holyfield dedicated the victory to God, whereas Tyson was fighting strictly for his own glory.
I'm not saying this is 100%, but it appears to be a factor - and the strength of this factor might depend on the intensity of the desire to do the task for someone else.
A most precious 23-year-old daughter of one of my patients had Hodgkin's lymphoma, and prior to receiving another round of chemotherapy she overheard her doctor telling another physician "I'm afraid this is the beginning of the end for her."
I encouraged her to explore alternative methods, but the next chemotherapy was set to begin the following week. So I told her about programmed dreams and recommended she have a dream that would tell her exactly what to do.
In her programmed dream she was helping someone else who had a serious problem, and when we discussed her dream she added "that's how I recovered so fast from the first round of chemotherapy, by focusing my attention on helping someone else."
I really wish she had explored alternative medicine approaches, but I recognized that she was right on course with the love energy, the life force, the healing energy. She made a quick recovery from the effects of chemotherapy and I am hoping that the love energy enabled the treatment to be successful.
While traveling across India I met with a highly evolved Kundalini yogi and I asked him how to become total love energy toward all people all the time. When this holy man finally stopped laughing, he wrote on slate with chalk (because he had not spoken for 30 years) and his disciple translated: "When you want to hit a target with an arrow you aim only at the bulls eye." This makes sense, because we all reach out with a love-need combination, and to the extent there is need, there can be hurt feelings when those needs are not met, and the danger of hurt feelings prevents us from reaching out more fully. When reaching toward total love, toward the bull's eye, there can be no rejection - and this allows us to reach out more fully. Furthermore, if we are loving the purest form of love energy, then we are identifying with, and emulating, that very source itself.
Bahkti yoga is the discipline of intensifying love energy. The total effort is to intensify love, and to experience constant love. The day is filled with devotional love. This can be practiced with or without formalized religion.
In our own daily lives we can sort through each thought, word, feeling, action - and put it on the scale to determine love versus need. By "need" I mean desire. This is most useful in psychotherapy. If a person is miserable it is because he wants something. If a husband or wife complains bitterly about the spouse, this has NOTHING to do with loving the other person; it has only to do with caring exclusively about the self and wanting more for the self.
Enhancing the love energy of the patient is an effective way to increase the healing process. This holds true for both psychological and physical healing:
Patients who are injured or who have serious physical illnesses, often are focused on the self and the illness. This shuts off the flow of the healing energy. Depressed persons are focused on the self, and this is the opposite of being in love or loving someone else. Persons who have physical injuries or terminal illnesses frequently are quite depressed, which is counterproductive when trying to get well. Anxiety accompanies depression and vice versa for obvious reasons. Anxiety causes depression, which is why sometimes it can be treated with tranquilizing agents. When persons are anxious, they are worried, consciously and unconsciously, about "what's going to happen to me?" This is the wrong direction of flow of love energy and will produce unhappiness and loss of energy. It is little wonder that criteria for depression include no interest in anyone or anything, and, loss of energy.
Depressed persons and anxious persons can be cured by treating their conditions through the love dimension alone. A person who becomes totally loving can neither be depressed nor anxious. While I use a multidimensional approach to the treatment of depression, and I consider at least 14 different dimensions of treatment in addition to medication, the one factor I never lose sight of is the direction of flow of love energy, and I always point out when the problem is primarily the patient's need or desire. This same enhancement of love energy is very valuable in treating psychoses, because psychosis - as I will describe in a subsequent lecture - relates to a partial return to infancy, with all the needs of the infant. When a person becomes predominantly loving, this is movement away from the needs of infancy, and movement back into adult mind/brain/reality.
The same holds true for the addictions. At an addictions unit I directed, a counselor voiced the opinion that it was very important to show the patients that the counselor really cares about them. I corrected him on this and said it was much more important that he get the patients to care about him, and do something for him. He then recognized that he himself had overcome his addiction was when he began helping others with theirs.
Enhancement of love energy should be a part of every physical remedy, because it is a vital ingredient to healing. If persons are angry or hateful they will not heal as quickly or as well. There are numerous studies that demonstrate the enhancement of the immune system with love energy or prayer, but these studies are just touching the surface or catching a tiny aspect of this energy. A thorough understanding of the laws of physics which govern this energy is important, because it enables us to identify the direction of flow of this energy, and reverse it at will if it is flowing the wrong direction.
On a number of occasions I have read about a small town in Pennsylvania, named Roseto - which was studied extensively by medical researchers in the 1960s, because its residents were among the healthiest in the United States. Surprisingly enough, the people there smoked as much, exercised as little, and faced just as many stressful situations as other Americans.
After extensive testing the researchers learned that this community, more than any other studied, showed a remarkable cohesiveness and sense of unconditional support for one another. The conclusion drawn from this, and similar findings in the literature, is that all this interpersonal support brings with it the life prolonging and life-saving qualities.
I was interested that this study touched upon this fourth factor for health and longevity, yet at the same time did not differentiate between giving and receiving. Hasn't it been said that it is better to give than to receive? The health and the longevity is a result of the outward flow of this energy. Giving the support is the correct direction of flow of this energy. There is nothing wrong with receiving the support, and in fact it can cause us to be grateful, appreciative and loving - but wanting or desiring support would be energy flowing in the wrong direction and would be counterproductive. It would shut off our fountain of youth.
In the Gita this energy is described in terms of the three Gunas: Satvas, Rajas and Tomas. Satvas is the highest level, followed by Rajas and then Tomas. I equate Satvas with love, or energy flowing outward, Rajas with need or desire, or energy flowing back to the self, and Thomas with apathy, or no energy going anywhere. There are biblical references to this as well. Christ made some reference to preferring persons hot or cold, but definitely, not luke-warm. Tomas is the lowest of the three gunas. It equates to apathy or being luke-warm.
In the Gita it states that the route from Tomas to Satvas sometimes is through Rajas, or - stated in English, the route from apathy to love sometimes is through need. Many years ago I developed a means of instantly converting persons from apathy to love, by triggering need but preventing hurt or jealous feelings. It is possible to take the most distant apathetic relationship, trigger need but prevent hurt or jealous feeling, and precipitate intense feelings of love.
For example, the wife of a political figure in Washington gradually became viewed as dull and mundane by her husband - because he was travelling around the world to exciting places and meeting daily with important people. When he would come home, he was exhausted and would open a can of beer and watch a soap opera on television. She became very upset and her needs were intensified by his lack of interest and affection.
Suddenly one day he became very interested in her; we applied the approach of converting tamas to satvas through rajas. This always works if done properly. On my advice, she told him that she really cared about him, that he was number-one in her life, and that she wanted him to do whatever made him happy. She understood he was tired when he came home after a very hard day and just needed to relax and put his feet up and have a can of beer. This was OK with her - but meanwhile she was going stare-crazy just looking at the four walls and having no one to talk with. So would he mind, would he object, would it be OK if she went out to the local nightclub just to socialize, dance, meet people and have a good time. She presented this in such a way that of course he had to say go ahead, enjoy yourself.
Note there was nothing to stir jealousy or anger: She did not say "You are not paying attention to me so I am going to go out and meet other people who will pay attention to me." Instead she asked "do you mind if.," and he gave her permission. She of course does not need permission, but she needs to not stir feelings of hurt, anger and jealousy - if she wants his love and interest instead.
This middle-aged housewife was far too anxious about stepping out alone to actually go into the nightclub, so she drove around the block several times and went to a fast food restaurant, lingering and not returning home until about midnight. Her husband was up and waiting for her. He was interested in how her evening went, and she told what a wonderful time she had and the interesting people she met. His level of interest in her skyrocketed, and for the next several months everywhere he traveled around the country he invited her to go with him. This was good for him and for her, because he felt better too when his love energy was intensified.
After a few months his level of interest settled back down and so she tried the approach once more. This time she made the mistake of stirring hurt, anger, need and jealousy. When she returned home at midnight he was already asleep, so she fell asleep on the sofa, and then at 4AM went tip toeing upstairs. He awakened infuriated, calling her names saying he wanted nothing to do with her. But had she said "I met a great group of people and probably won't get back until 4AM," there would have been no jealousy whatsoever, just interest directed outward, toward her, which is love.
When you understand the flow of love energy you can redirect it at will. To help a person recover from a serious illness, get that person to help someone else - or to help others with the same illness. One of my patients with AIDS is experiencing a substantial improvement in his condition since he has started counseling people in the hospital who are dying from the disease. Get the patient's energy flowing outward, have the patient help others, encourage the person's religious practices - and here you might have to redirect the person from the give me, give me, give me prayers to "I love you, I love you, I love you" type prayer.
Fear is the antithesis of love and it is counterproductive: It focuses attention and energy on the self. Picturing the self to be well, the body free from disease, knowing and trusting this is so, and helping others recover -- perhaps from similar problems -- is far more productive. For the healing process it is important to avoid anger, hatred, bitterness, worry - and to focus instead on intensifying love, caring, doing for others with no regard for anything in return, and the expression of devotional love and appreciation. All of this enhances the life force, the healing energy, and the recovery process.
This love energy appears to follow precise laws, that are like other laws of physics, and which appear to be quantitative. Of all things to study in medicine today, it is the analysis of this love energy itself which might be the most rewarding and productive. It is this love energy to which I hope to devote a large portion of the remainder of my life. Likely it is the most important factor for healing and for longevity since Seleye discovered stress, yet it is equally as invisible as was stress at the turn of the previous century.